This is STILL Postpartum

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I’m Chelsea. I’m a postpartum coach and a momma who is committed to keeping it real. I’m not going to share how to make your home, your kids or your body perfect. I’m here to normalize the chaos, sit with you in the messy parts of motherhood and educate you on what to REALLY expect in postpartum. You can get my insight on 10 things people won’t tell you about postpartum HERE! I hope you find some comfort from my page and connect with me so we can keep in touch. Alright- now on to the post you came here for!

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What We Are Told About Postpartum

Right before having my baby, I saw a hashtag movement: 

#thisispostpartum. It felt empowering to see and was just what I needed before birth to take confidence in all the changes my body had already undergone and was about to go through. I vowed to be a part of this movement of authenticity. I vowed to show more of the unglamorous parts of being a new mom. I vowed to show up not just in the posed family pictures, but the wide range of emotions and experiences that come with postpartum.

Are you looking for education, normalization and support through your postpartum? Maybe Postpartum Together is a good fit for you.

How Long Is Postpartum?

I hit the six-week mark and visited my midwives for a follow-up appointment. By some measures, I had come through the “postpartum period” and yet I still felt so NEW and evolving. I continued to use the hashtag and to discuss postpartum.

I hit the 3-month mark- the time when women in America are expected to be back to work (if not before.) Surely by now things were back to normal, right? Surely I wasn’t still talking about my body, emotions, and mentality as if it were related to my new child. Sure I’ had moved on and gotten my life together. And yet, I continued to discuss postpartum and a period of transition because it still felt raw and new. 

How long is postpartum? Some say 6 weeks, some say 3 months but could it be longer?

Here I sit at 6 months post-baby, and yet I still consider myself postpartum. When my hormones are out of whack, when I look in the mirror and see a different body than I previously knew, when I struggle to connect in ways I used to, when I feel the conflicts of different areas of my life demanding my attention… I still call this postpartum. 


Who decided that we can put a timeframe on postpartum?

Women believe the first postpartum milestone is six weeks- the time you usually have a check-up with your provider and can be cleared to “get back” to activities. Milestone #2 is commonly accepted as that 12 week period- when we are expected to be back at work (if not already). 

Postpartum is the season of adjustment and change- physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally and personally (a series of experiences I’ve coined as “The 5 Pillars of Postpartum”) that follow the birth of a child (and as reproductive psychiatrist, Alexandra Sacks says, “The Birth of a Mother.” 

We don’t have to let some societal construct be the timeline by which we judge our personal growth, change, and “achievement.” We are not timelines and charts. 

Even past the early weeks, we have hormonal shifts. Our hormones continue to change and fluctuate. Relaxin. Prolactin. Oxytocin. Estrogen. Progesterone. Things that can continue to affect our hormones and emotional experience include bonding, feeding or weaning, change in time spent with baby, the return of menstrual cycle, etc. 

Our physical body- it’s still healing. It’s still changing. It’s still balancing feeding another human and maintaining ourselves.

Our body looks different than it ever has because it’s in a season it’s never been in before.

Our bodies weren’t made to “bounce back to normal” because they have been through so much-given so much-grown so much. These bodies serve a much bigger purpose than how they look in a bathing suit as summer approaches. At 6 months- my body is still postpartum and it is still brilliant. 

If it takes longer than 6 weeks for your body to drop the “baby weight” that’s totally normal. If you never have the same numbers on the scale and the same curves in the same places, that’s totally normal. If your clothes never fit the same way, that’s normal. 

 
Postpartum body image can be a struggle for women
 



If you’re 3 months after-baby and your hormones still feel in flux, that’s natural. If your relationships are still transitioning, it’s okay. If you’re still figuring out your new identity- you’re not alone. 

Someone somewhere decided to put a time frame on postpartum and it seemed to stick. Maybe we need a new name for the six week-twoish years after a baby, but maybe we could just stop putting the pressure on ourselves and others and ground in the truth that this is STILL postpartum and we are allowed to STILL be changing, unsure, growing and figuring out a new “normal.”

Tell me- have you felt rushed to be “back to normal” after a baby? What do you wish someone would have said to you in your postpartum period?

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