Mobility Saved My Pumping Journey

When new moms ask me how to successfully breast pump for an extended time, my top answer is mobility. Being tied to the wall and having time “sucked” out of me quickly started to make me feel discouraged and resentful. Pumping felt like a full-time job and I struggled thinking about what I was missing out on by being tied to the pump. The shift to mobile pumping not only was a physical shift but a mental and emotional one too.

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This is STILL Postpartum

Someone somewhere decided to put a time frame on postpartum and it seemed to stick. Maybe we need a new name for the six week-twoish years after a baby, but maybe we could just stop putting the pressure on ourselves and others and ground in the truth that this is STILL postpartum and we are allowed to STILL be changing, unsure, growing and figuring out a new “normal.”

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May I Be A Mom Who Remembers

Parenting young children is much different from parenting older, this was starkly obvious to me in these moments of internal and external tension. My children, they needed me more. They needed my guidance to explore their independence. They needed my attentiveness to keep them safe, fed, and without a tummy ache from too much chocolate. They needed my conversations to be brief and often interrupted. They needed my body to be more mobile and in sync with their own. They needed me and my energy constantly. They needed my patience to be higher than what is humanly available without some serious intention.

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As You Go Into Surgery: A Letter to my Daughter

You won’t remember this day. The day of your open heart surgery to repair your congenital heart defect (Tetralogy of Fallot.) You won’t remember the details of being wheeled off, eased into anesthesia, opened, repaired and stitched back up. You won’t remember the details or the feelings but you will carry with you the strength you’re gathering in this season. You’ll carry with you your ability to see a challenge and rise above it. You’ll carry with you the focus on the most important things in life- because you know from an early age that it’s not something to take lightly.

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Parenting: 5 Ways to Be on the Same Team

Parenting together can be challenging, even if you’re madly in love with your partner. No one in their right mind will tell you that parenting is a breeze. It takes teamwork and understanding different parenting styles. On top of that, we know that doing this new, messy, and overwhelming journey while trying to keep clear and positive communication with a partner can be… well… challenging. There are, though, ways to be on the same team in parenting and improve communication and collaboration. Read more for 5 tips to be on the same team with your partner in parenting.

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Sex After Baby: What’s Holding Moms Back?

When surveyed, an large number of women shared that on the first attempt at having sex after giving birth, they cried. A large number shared that, on the first attempt (or more) postpartum sex didn’t happen. To some, sex after baby hurt, for others it is a low sex-drive or issues that make it uncomfortable. To bring some light and normalization, I recently took to the trusty Instagram to survey this hot topic. You’ll read what other moms say prohibit them from engaging in sex, how they described sex after baby, and some tips and ideas for making it happen and enjoying it again.

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Married with Young Kids

Do I hate my husband? No. Will this last forever? Probably not. Are these days and nights hard? Hell yes. Are you going to make it through? You are. We are all engaging something totally new together and we need one another to make it work but we don’t even know how to take the next step sometimes. Parenting is hard. Marriage is hard. Marriage while parenting is really hard.

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The Waiting Gap with a Sick Child

CHD Awareness. Tetralogy of Fallot. Mom of CHD Blog. Looking at our family from the outside you probably wouldn’t see that we are daily picturing our child on a medical table through a massive operation. From the outside you wouldn’t see the fear of a faulty move of the doctor’s hand or a sterilization procedure not being followed and welcoming infection. Yet these are the things I see every day.

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The Best Gift You Didn't Ask For: A Christmas Letter to My Children

The best Christmas gift I’m giving you, my children, is one you didn’t even know you wanted. While I know there are arguments ahead and mornings we will be running late due to bickering and blame in our future, I also know that there are moments in every day to savor. I already see the beautiful moments and swell with pride to see the two of you forming your bond together. I can only hope that one night when I hear rustling past bedtime, it’s the two of you with a flashlight inside a fort telling stories. I can only hope that when you’re teenagers and I hear a window crack in the wee hours, it’s the two of you sneaking in together after having an adventure you’ll remember for a lifetime. I can only hope that through all the ups and downs we are sure to have as a family, you’ll be there for one another.  

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Postpartum Fitness is About More than Losing Weight

While it is ok to want to lose the baby weight eventually; resting, healing and bonding with baby should be top priorities. Your body went through tremendous changes in pregnancy with fluctuating hormones and a growing belly. In pregnancy, both estrogen and progesterone are high and will drastically decrease after delivery. Also, breastfeeding will produce a hormone called prolactin which will make your estrogen levels even lower.  All of these changes in your hormones make it difficult to lose fat. Not to mention that cortisol can run at a high level due to stress and lack of sleep which makes gaining fat more likely than losing fat. Please remember that your body is AMAZING and grew a tiny HUMAN. Not letting your body heal properly in postpartum could lead to some major setbacks in the future.

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Meaningful Holiday Traditions For Young Children

There are many ways our children begin to identify what the holiday season means. They get ideas from all around us. Many people adopt the traditions passed down from family or even traditions started as a childless couple… but how do we mark these holidays in meaningful ways for our young children? How do we establish traditions that allow us to step into a magical place together to enjoy the season as a family? How can we instill in our children a connection to the season that goes beyond gifts and days off of school?

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My Postpartum Journey is Measured by More than a Scale

Postpartum weight loss gets a lot of attention. From well meaning friends and family, to doctors and nurses, to strangers who see you with a baby. My weight? It’s another number created by mostly uncontrollable factors that doesn’t define much at all about my “success.” We have to buck the system here. We have to be the voices of reminder that our postpartum story- it’s about far more important things than weight loss.

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